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Being detached
'Detachment' is often equated with being cold, logical, distant and
aloof.
It suggests a solitary condition of separateness.
Not-clinging
In Taoism and Zen, the word has a very different connotation: it is
about being in the moment and allowing the moment to pass without regret,
opinion, judgement,
meaning, idea or
conclusion.
Being aloof or distant is simply a poise and often reflects indifference, a
lack of compassion for other beings.
Detachment means 'not-clinging'.
Emotions
Emotions are typically about
gratification.
The pre-verbal infant (or animal) desires something that will produce
contentment/pleasure.
This desire is supplemented with a biochemical release intended to encourage
the success of this pursuit.
If you acquire what pleases you, you are happy. If you fail, you are sad.
Think about any emotional state you experience... Most revolve around
gratification.
Passion
Immersing yourself in the passions of the moment is fine providing we
do not walk away pining for what has been.
Detachment is a state of being whereby the situation is treated for what it
was; a fleeting event in the overall happening of your life.
If you ate a nice meal, you do not compare it to a previous one or wonder
what the next one will be like.
Each moment is unique and individual.
Reality
Detachment is the outcome of letting go. Life involves perpetual
change.
Seeking to hold it still or shape it to suit your
expectations is completely
unrealistic and this will cause you pain.
If you are stubborn and seek to hold onto what has passed, you are clinging
to a memory.
Memories are not real.
Serenity
Statues of religious figures such as Buddha usually have a serene smile.
The smile is not condescending or indifferent.
It is the smile of compassion.
Buddha was not cold and unfeeling - he knew that
suffering was part of
living and even life itself must some day pass.
Putting life in perspective can promote inner peace.
Contemplating life is a good way of finding personal
balance and happiness,
of realising that everyone has problems and nobody can be happy all the
time.
Child-like
Taoism advocates an almost child-like approach to life.
Children are interested in whatever holds their curiosity.
If that moment passes, they become engaged in something else.
Novelty?
The danger with the notion of 'child-like' is to regard it as being about
novelty and distraction.
In Taoism the meaning is quite different.
Child-like is seen as a condition where the mind is not jaded by experience
and takes each moment as it comes, unhindered by memory or expectation.
Detachment
Detachment is not about being unmoved by life...
It is a condition of inner composure where we accept life as it is -
sometimes we will be happy, other times sad.
But we do not wallow in our emotions.
Participation
Living involves participation; it means getting dirty.
By accepting the ups and downs of life, we can approach them with
equanimity.
This is the Way that it is.
You can try and fight it or you can grin philosophically in the knowledge
that every moment is fresh, unique and special.
Tomorrow is another day.
The extremes of emotional drama fade because
frustration passes with the
realisation that this is life.
World-view
It is easy to forget how vast the world is, and how
inconceivably complex.
Reality does not revolve around any one being.
Seeing that we are all interrelated and special is an important step to
becoming detached.
This is not to be confused with 'politics'...
Page created
16 August 1995
Last updated
04 May 2023
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