|Getting your own way|
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People are usually motivated by the quest for gratification.
They seek out things that please them and avoid things that fail to measure up.
New starters sometimes commence a martial arts class and imagine that they can 'cherry pick' the syllabus.
Typically, they are quietly instructed to get on with the training.
A martial arts class is not about gratification. This is a very important thing to recognise.
It is not the 'service industry'.
Martial arts schools have existed for centuries. They have only one purpose: to teach you combat skills.
Their role is not to please you.
"I just want to be
All the time?
May your wishes
People are seldom in possession of the whole story. We operate with partial knowledge.
And the less you understand, the less informed your choices are.
If you act without appropriate context, insight and understanding, your actions may easily be misguided and confused.
The danger with getting your own way is that your capacity to determine importance and relevance is impaired.
What you think is important may not necessary be the best choice in hindsight.
A student may have a variety of opinions and notions concerning their chosen art, but these rarely coincide with the actuality of the Art.
If the students aims to impose their will upon the martial art, the outcome will be misguided.
The student will only practice what pleases them. And much will be neglected and overlooked.
In Taoist terms, this is called 'the cart seeking to lead the horse'.
Unless the student is a skilled practitioner, they have no idea how to teach the Art, or what the goals are.
Consequently, they have no idea how best to accomplish those aims.
When something prevents a person from getting their own way, the response is often to become emotional.
Instead of accepting the situation, or considering alternatives, the individual pushes harder.
They complain, they argue, they become offensive.
'Saying your piece' or 'getting something off your chest' may be fine for a counselling service.
But not for a martial arts class.
A person of strong character endures silently.
They take the corrections, the hardship and the difficulties.
Being thwarted is an opportunity to change. To adapt. To improvise.
An attacker will not accommodate you. Their intention is to cause you harm.
Losing your temper or becoming aggressive will not aid your plight.
You need to remain calm and composed.
Instead of trying to force an outcome, move with what is happening and take advantage of any opening that presents itself.
Martial arts classes are designed to temper the ego and quash arrogance.
A student must learn patience and humility, respect and consideration.
Invariably, this means not getting your own way.
18 April 1995
Last updated 14 December 2016